I see a lot of my friends jumping headfirst into relationships with kids in the picture already, men and women alike. And it seems no matter how much I warn them they think it’s ok to involve their kids with their new mate almost immediately. In my opinion, this is really, really bad decision-making by both parties.

Having raised two girls that weren’t mine, I can tell you that not only does this negatively affect the person that isn’t the biological parent if the relationship doesn’t work out, but more so the children. Introducing your child to a new mate is irresponsible and selfish. Like I’ve said before, if you find out that he/she is right for you in the long run then what did it hurt to wait? The alternative is your child begins a relationship with someone that may not be in their lives six months or a year down the road, and if you think that won’t negatively affect their life, you’re a retard. You can try and justify it all you like but when ten out of ten child therapists recommend against it, there’s really nothing to argue.

But I wanted to focus on men meeting women that already have children. My warning to you is make real sure you are in it for the long haul before you allow your new woman to introduce you into her kids’ lives. That is, unless you have no heart.

And what I mean by that is any guy with a heart, with the ability to love children, will get attached to a child they are involved with on that level. Both of the girls I raised I now see as my children. Why not? I did everything a good father would do for and with them. I earned the right to call both of them my daughters.

One was 12 when I was first introduced to her and since I married her mother, even though we are divorced now, I still have a connection to her. In fact, she is graduating this year from my alma mater with a PhD in Education. (Try and tell me that wasn’t partially due to my parenting).

However, the other was two when I met her and that’s a whole different ball game. The 12 year old knew I wasn’t her father. The two year old had no choice but to see me as exactly that.

And for the first time in my life, my parenting skills were really tested and I found out I was great at it. And up until the age of six, I was “Dad.”

I actually started my business so I could stay home with her while her mother worked. But as the child turned six, my relationship with her mother was deteriorating.

This little girl’s grandmother told me once, “Some people are good parents, Matt, and some just aren’t and my daughter is one of them.” In other words, even my ex’s own mother doubted my ex’s motivations and intentions when it came to her child. Even while we were together, it was like I was the only parent. I did everything, from making every meal for the child to taking and picking her up from school.

So when we broke up, I had a bond with this little girl that I think even few biological fathers feel. She looked to me for everything…because I was “Dad.”

So what’s my point in telling you all this?

I was cut off from that little girl’s life for no good reason. I even offered child support in exchange for letting me keep a connection. I spent $30,000 in court suing her mother for visitation and almost won in a state that doesn’t recognize third-party parents. I missed her so much that I almost changed that law in Missouri.

But in the end, I lost. What I’ve come to realize is that the little girl lost more. She lost the one good parent she had.

Do I regret being in that relationship? Absolutely not. But I do wish that maybe I had waited to let my ex involve her in my life.

The moral of the story is tread lightly when it comes to rushing to play daddy. It might not only be your heart that gets broken.

Men and women alike, for the most part, will put on their best face when people start dating. It’s natural, when you are attracted to someone, to want to give a good first impression. This can go on for months or even years, which is why I believe rushing into a serious relationship is never good. You can’t truly say you know someone after a few short months. Hell, I don’t think we can ever truly know someone all together, but the longer you wait to pop the question, the better.

But because I’ve dated a great number of women, I’ve noticed certain characteristics that make it easier for me to spot women that are less likely to make good mates for men that know the deeper a woman’s insecurities, the more likely the relationship will fail. Being able to spot these personality traits in women can make dating a lot more enjoyable.

Some personality traits are givens, right? Possessiveness, neediness and desperation would be my top three. Sometimes you can spot these traits right off the bat and sometimes it takes a while, but the moment you spot them and know they aren’t just having a bad day, most experienced men will run.

But there are a couple of traits that are subtler and are harder to spot until a woman becomes comfortable with you. So let’s focus on those.

Overly “Shy” or “Quiet”

Watch out for overly “shy” or “quiet” women. Oh, they’ll come up with all kinds of reasons for being shy but the bottom line is if the woman you are seeing is too quiet, there’s a reason for it that will eventually drive you crazy. Being shy is usually the result of insecurity.

Everyone has insecurities…everyone, but it’s how you handle and overcome them that is important. If those insecurities manifest themselves in shyness, it’s likely (note “likely”, not “a certainty”) that they have more insecurities than the average woman. Most problems that arise in relationships are due to the insecurities of the players so you’re starting a relationship with someone that is going to probably begin letting those insecurities show about the time she thinks she has you hooked.

Everyone likes a certain amount of attention, but some more than others. Shy people are usually attention-whores in sheep’s clothing.

Need Constant Attention

The other trait I would tell you then to look out for is attention whores. Some are shy about it and some aren’t. Whether they are overly shy or loud, attention-whores are people that need your constant affirmation. The louder ones will be more obvious. But if a woman is truly ok with herself and happy being herself, she won’t need your constant attention.

I know women that will freak out if they don’t know where their man is at all times. I know women that will post picture after picture of themselves on the internet. Why? Why would someone feel the need to post essentially the same picture in different clothes every other day? Because they know that when they do, at least one desperate male will comment something to give them the affirmation they crave because men are visually stimulated more than women are..and, let’s face it, even less attractive females are attractive to someone and women know this. But what I see is women that don’t feel comfortable in their own skin so they post and post pictures so they can get that attention. If a woman is truly good looking and knows it, she wouldn’t feel that need. Women confident in their beauty don’t need to fish for compliments constantly.

Pretenders

But the women you really need to watch out for are the ones who change depending on the setting. I know women that are shy in real life but use the internet to pretend to be something they aren’t. In fact, it’s almost an epidemic online. Using the internet to get that affirmation they need, pretending to be outgoing when in reality they can’t look you in the eyes in person, is a huge red flag.

Find a woman that will be herself and is secure enough with herself that no matter where she is or what she is doing, she doesn’t seem to need constant attention.

I’ve met women that are really beautiful on the outside but once you witness their attention-craving behavior become less attractive. Needing constant affirmation diminishes their beauty somehow. Try to find a woman that realizes she is beautiful and doesn’t desperately reach for your confirmation, because those women, and that confidence level, are extremely sexy and make much better partners in the long run.

I think the best advice for men sometimes comes from women. I mean, they are the ones we are dating, right?

So in my last article, “Guys Talk, Women Walk,” I went over how women perceive guys talking about sex and their sex life and how they found that unattractive. In this article, we will view the other side of the coin.

The same friend that mentioned how that guy talk annoys her also complained that it wasn’t fair that if a man sleeps around when not in a relationship, he is a stud, but if women do it, they are sluts.

Sorry, but on this one I have to disagree with my friend.

Not that I think it is cool if a guy sleeps around. Personally, I prefer to date one woman at a time. However, I do believe some things are inherently female and some things inherently male. At some point, women become male-like to men and we find that to be a huge turn-off.

I believe this is one instance where men should watch out for women who have had many partners. The fact is, most of the people (male or female) I’ve talked to agree that for a woman, meeting a man that has had multiple partners isn’t as unattractive as females who have had a multitude of men in her life. Most women either find this to be unimportant and some even find it a turn-on. They can deny that all they like but again, I’ve had this conversation with many people. However, men will mostly agree that knowing the person they are with now has had a lot of partners in the past is a huge turn-off.

I’m all for equality in many ways, but there comes a point when some things being equal take away from our sexuality. I don’t want my women to be like men and most women I know want their man to BE a man.

Men are attracted to women because of the differences they have from men, not the similarities. Oh, women will tell you they want a sensitive man but the moment you show sensitivity too often, they want nothing to do with you.

I would advise men to steer clear of women that want to be too equal with men in certain ways and vice versa. Again, no woman I know really wants their man to behave like society perceives a woman should act.

Women who want to act too much like men are usually controlling and insecure about their sexuality. In fact, the women I’ve dated that think men and women should be “equal” in every way have turned out to be ultra-possessive and no real man wants that kind of mate. Equality doesn’t have to mean the exact same when it comes to our behavior. At some point, men should be men and women should be women or we lose those differences and attraction is lost.

If you find out the woman you just started dating has had an unusual amount of partners or talks about meaningless encounters she’s had, run for the hills. Run like a freaking jack rabbit…bob and weave while you’re at it.

And if women who have had a lot of mates in their lifetime don’t bother you, my advice is to call a hooker instead of getting serious with her. At least that way you know you need to be tested afterward and you don’t have to listen to her talk about her experience, which we all know is a big turn-off for men.

And if that upsets the women that read this, think about it for a minute. Do you really want your man to be anything other than a man? So don’t hate the messenger. Some things should just be left the way they are.

Guys, let me share something with you. Women don’t find your testosterone-filled competition about who has a better sex life, or who knows more about women, attractive. In fact, it turns them off completely.

Men seem to think that if they stand around and brag about their sex lives or talk about women as if they were dogs in heat that they will seem like big men to their friends. I have plenty of friends who do it and always have. So why do they do it?

Just like all annoying human behavior, this type of guy talk is born out of insecurity. If your sex life is satisfying to you and you are so happy with it, why would you feel the need to talk about it? If you were so sure you were the “player” you think you are, why the need to share your conquests?

If your ego is dependent on how many women you are able to have sex with, maybe it’s time you re-evaluate who you are because no woman of value finds that attractive. Guys who view women only as sexual conquests usually end up with someone just as insecure as they are and just as shallow. Women with any self-respect don’t want your passed around penis anywhere near them.

I find that these guys are the same ones who tout the tagline, “Bros before hos, dude.” Any man that would rather sit around and talk about who he is having sex with and how many there are with men than actually be with a woman, is, in my opinion, an idiot.

Every time I meet a guy that wants to share his sexual exploits with me, all I can think is, “What a retard. If he was actually getting this much sex, he wouldn’t feel the need to prove it to me.”

My advice to men who feel the need to talk about women like they are just objects is to focus more on the women they are dating and satisfying them and save that breath and energy for the bedroom. Perhaps that way all these women you are supposedly having sex with will actually want to come back for seconds, because with that ego-centric attitude, I don’t see how you could possibly be satisfying your mates. Sex is about giving, guys. Spend less time talking and more time giving and I guarantee your sex life will improve in quality even if it does diminish a bit in quantity. I don’t know about you, but my goal is great sex, not superficial sex in great quantities. But hey, if notches on your bedpost are your thing, more power to you. I think I’ll keep my sex life to myself. Somehow talking about it gives a little of the joy of sex away and I’m happy keeping all that joy to myself.

Well, hold on just a minute.  Let’s look at some things first, shall we?

Since the institution of marriage predates recorded human history, we’ve only been able to speculate on the reasons for its origin.  Some say it was to ensure the male paternity of his children.  Some say it was to limit competition between males for any given female.  Whatever the reasons, I think we can all agree that possession and control played a big part.

So now, I have these friends that are planning to get married, three of them.  None of these couples have even been together for an entire year.

So, why so fast?  We’ve all heard the phrase “If its meant to be, it will last.” However, if that’s true then why the need to rush into marriage?  Believe me, the tax breaks aren’t worth making a mistake.

Still, every one of these couples will declare their “love” for each other is “different.”  I assume they mean different from past relationships they’ve had since they couldn’t possibly know if it differs from someone else’s.  So if its so different, why the rush?

Love is a decision we make each and every day.  It’s not magic fairy dust like most people believe it to be.  As we become older, one would think the decision to love would get more experienced and wiser, but when I look around me at these couples, it seems to me they’re just reaching for possession and control.

Want my opinion? Doesn’t matter, I’m going to give it anyways…Possession does not deepen love, but in fact, these days, fractures it. There is no longer a need, in our modern society, for control over a woman, or your children.  We have laws now to protect those things. I will never get married again unless its important to the person I choose because a piece of paper feeds the NEED to be with someone, not the desire. I want to know the person I’m with WANTS to be with me, every single day. Times are a changin’. I find that more often than not, the desire to marry is one begat from control, not desire.

And I love the “marriage makes it harder to walk away” excuse.   I want the person I’m with to be able to walk away at any given time.  Why? So I know every minute they spend with me was a minute they wanted to be with me and not because a ring, or a day in church made them stay.  How unsexy is that?

And then the argument is “Well, there’s always divorce if it doesn’t work out.”  Then why marry in the first place?  To prove your love? In fact, I would argue that all modern marriage does is put more pressure on a relationship.  If you cage an animal, it wants nothing more than to get out, but if you leave the door to the cage open, the animal comes back because it is not, in fact, caged.

If your love is so “different” and “special,” then what will a piece of paper and a ring do for it?  I think if more couples asked themselves that question, our divorce rate would be a lot lower.  I think too few people remember or know that emotions, including love, are decisions, not fairy dust.  No one makes you mad or happy without your consent, whether you know this fact or not.  The same is true for love.
Marriage began in order to quell our animal instincts to have multiple partners in our lifetime, for possession and control.  Have we not become evolved enough to love one person loyally without a collar around our necks?  I’d like to think I have.

So to the friends I mentioned above… How will getting married so quickly change your love for one another?  The fact is that most people NEED to love and be loved.  But I prefer to WANT to love and to know the person I’m with WANTS to love me back.  The fact remains that to even be able to love or be loved, you must love yourself first and be ok being by yourself.  Putting a ring on someone’s finger so quickly only shows the world your aren’t ok with either.  And if any of the friends mentioned above are reading this, instead of getting mad at me, why not ask yourself why you are mad in the first place… because if my opinion isn’t true for you, then you shouldn’t be. But if you are, maybe instead of being mad you should ask yourself that question… How will it change your love? And if it won’t, then why not wait?

That weekend was an interesting one. It was interesting, for the first time in my life, to function for days without a functioning penis. It felt almost as if, for that weekend, I didn’t have one. What transpired was a plethora of sexual, psychological, sociological, spiritual, and biological feelings as I went about my day-to-day routines. I began to understand what impotent males must feel like, and it wasn’t a feeling I’d like to understand permanently.

There were situations I encountered, that had I had a fully functioning penis, I would’ve reacted differently to. There were chance encounters with attractive females and seemingly ironic open-door situations for introductions and ice breaking.

Most of that weekend, I didn’t feel like doing anything. Just hiding indoors until my dong got better. I definitely didn’t want to go out those nights because… well, what if I got unluckily lucky? That’d be a great scene: an amorous romp, heavy and fevered. Clothes being strewn about, lips and bodies locked in embrace. The final shreds of clothing being ripped off only to be stopped cold by my voice and body going rigid… “Wait.” What is it, she’d no doubtedly ask, breathless. “My dong… it’s broken.”

One thing I did do was go shopping for household items. This was one of the situations I mentioned before. After placing my items on the checkout and waiting for the woman ahead of me to purchase her things, I looked up and noticed a very cute checkout girl working behind the register. Immediately, my eyes darted away. Not even gonna try it, not in my condition. I am literally feeling quite dickless.

As luck would have it, the woman ahead of me had her credit card denied. Then another. After a brief discussion with the checkout girl, both agreed to have all her items placed into a shopping cart so that she could return later to pay for them. Fine. Eyes down, I moved forward to pay for my things. “Hi,” the checkout girl greeted, as they are usually required to do. “Hey,” I mumbled.

She scanned my first item and to both of our chagrin, the register bled out a revoltingly long beeeep. We both looked at the register’s screen: it denoted some sort of employee code/sales lockout from the last uncleared purchase. Great. She tried a couple of times to unlock the register with her employee code but of course it wouldn’t work. Finally, she grabbed the phone and called for a supervisor’s assistance.

What followed was what seemed like eighty-thousand hours of uncomfortable silence while waiting for her supervisor, undoubtedly half-turtle, to arrive. All I had to do was make small talk, make like she was just some ugly dude and be friendly-like. I couldn’t. I had all these thoughts zipping through my head: I have no weiner. I should talk to her. I have no weiner. I should flirt with her. I have no weiner. I should just be friendly. I would normally be friendly. I would normally be friendly, flirt with her, and maybe I’d get lucky and hook up with her later and let her discover for herself I have no weiner. All these thoughts blew through my head, tangling me up. I didn’t even want to venture into a conversation that had the potential to lead to something good because right now, anything good would only lead to shock and horror.

There were other situations too, just going about my daily routines, like pumping gas and seeing a vagrant digging through the trashcans. What if he comes over here, I wondered. What if he aggressively panhandles me? If I had a normal weiner, a working one, I’d stand up and defend myself easily. But what if things escalate and we become physical? What he takes a kick at my groin? I’d sprawl out on this gas station ground and bellow like a dying dog. I quickly pumped my gas and got the hell out of there before any potential imagined situation could even occur.

It was a private horror – my broken penis situation. I was walking around with my symbol of manhood gone. It seemed like everything I watched on TV that weekend had hot chicks dancing around in small shorts, too. Man, I’d think, how I’d love to… to what? Cry in front of them? There was nothing I could do to them even if I were lucky enough to have a situation presented to me. I’d change channels and see more hot chicks dancing around in short shorts. Damnit! I began to understand how Hugh Hefner feels. Sexual intercourse with hot females is not just a physical desire, I thought. There is so much psychology going on with it. Imagine, having a non-functioning penis (for whatever reason: old-age, physical disability, old war injury, whatever), yet still utilizing modern medicine to get it erect enough to perform sexual intercourse, despite not being able to feel it. Why? What’s the point? I’d do it in a heartbeat, I acknowledged, after staring at cheerleaders on television rooting for… whatever team it was. Though there may be no physical gratification, there is something psychologically and emotionally pleasing about it. Something possibly ingrained from society. Maybe just an animal urge. Maybe… all of the above.

It is an interesting situation, walking around for days with a non-working unit. It makes you think things, feel things, and think about feeling things you never would have if not temporarily dismembered. I’d suggest trying it for yourself, but it’s not really something I’d advise anyone to go through realistically unless fate made it so. It’s also something I’d never like to go through again. And this was only 3 days before it started to get better, which in turn made me feel a hell of a lot better. Come on boy, I’d mentally urge like Timmy cheering on Lassie. You can do it! Bela Karolyi had nothing on me.

You don’t really think about the psychological ramifications of impotence when you hear about it, just the physical frustrations it must cause. But now I know there must be so much more to it, especially when you live in a sexual society where skin sells and everything about masculinity seems to be measured in size. If all this occurred in just my 3 days, I wondered what it would do if lived with for years, or maybe even a lifetime.

It’d be interesting to find out, but not firsthand. Just find me a subject and I’ll ask the questions.

He treated everyone as equals, whether male or female, which at the time was very rare. “I do detest everything which is not perfectly mutual,” he was famous for saying. Byron knew what every man should know about women. That if you treat them as an equal, a partner rather than a possession, you have a much better chance of turning them on.

On the flip side, every single woman I’ve ever met says she is independent but if I had to pick a number, I’d say only about ten percent really are independent. They all like to tote the independence flag, but if you want an equal, you need to find a woman in that ten percent. Its impossible to treat a woman as an equal when she’s dependent on the man she is with. If you partner with a woman that has you paying for everything, how can you possibly view her as an equal?

Independence isn’t a state of mind, but rather a repetition of actions that result from a state of mind. Saying one is independent means nothing without the actions behind it and with the actions, comes no need then to say it. You either are or you aren’t, but saying it won’t make it so. And let’s face it, most women’s idea of what ‘independent’ means is about as close to that definition as I am to not drinking beer ever again (I’m never going to stop drinking beer so that was sarcasm).

It’s on every girl’s profile on any dating site you look at. “Independent and sassy, I can be a bitch when I want to be, but hey, I’m hot so it shouldn’t matter.”

Oh, little girl, yes, yes it does. Maybe not for most men, but for this one, you bet your sweet ass it does. And while we’re on the subject of your ass, its great and all but you can pay for those overpriced jeans that you think make it look smaller.

As men, we are also guilty of encouraging women to be dependent. If a man allows his woman to claim she’s independent but meanwhile he is paying for everything, he’s a dumbass and part of the problem.

A woman isn’t independent if she can’t go at least a few months between serious relationships. Most women who do this will tell you its because they “deserve a man,” but it’s really because they are too scared to be without or need a man. Whether the reason is for security or profit, it varies, but either way, that’s not independence.

I don’t know how to stress this enough…Independence is predicated on what we do; it isn’t just something we think we are and it isn’t something we say we are. Since it is so rare these days, there is no need to say anything. Just be.

And let me say this one more time: There is nothing more sexy than a truly independent woman. Why? Because when you meet one, you know they are with you because they want to be, not because they need to be and THAT, my friends, is worth its weight in romantic gold.

Keep Things Friendly

Keeping things friendly is a great start. If a girl thinks your number one goal is to get in her pants, you’ve set yourself up for rejection. Avoid laying on the charm too thick and erase any cheesy pick up lines from your vocabulary. There’s a reason they’re called cheesy, besides they don’t work. It might be a little challenging at first, but treat her like a cool friend that happens to be female. Trust me, it will help take the pressure off both of you.

Be Funny

Being casual and sprinkling in a little comedy is two more ways to avoid the creepy factor. Everyone enjoys having fun, especially when your in a bar setting. Make a casual joke or if you do or say something a little silly, brush it off with some humor. Now this doesn’t mean making fun of her outfit or talking shit about that douche bag at the other end of the bar. Just have fun!

Avoid In Depth Questions

One thing to keep in mind is that when you’re first meeting someone it isn’t to plan your future wedding, so don’t treat it that way. Don’t ask too many in depth questions. Seem interested without getting too personal and interesting without being fake. And don’t overstay your welcome, recognize the signs when she isn’t interested or maybe is just ready to get back to her group.

She Talks to a lot of guys

Obvious? Maybe, but also something easily forgiven if she explains it away as “they’re just friends” or “I get along better with guys”(both of which may actually be true). But don’t turn your head completely just yet. Same as how a female wouldn’t whole-heartedly trust a male surrounded by friends of the feminine persuasion, you shouldn’t take her platonic word for it right off the bat. She could be telling them the same thing about you. Do some snooping, some investigative work before investing yourself to her. I don’t mean digging through her trash or tapping her phones, hang around her for a bit – just as friends, and see whether she really is “just one of the guys”… or busy picking her flavors of the week.

She’s Vague and Non-Committal

Wanna do something this weekend? Of course you do. But how come she never says what or when? Some weekends pass and plans never pan out. Some weekends she’s free but her phone’s always blowing up. Plus, she never stays long– just a few hours or maybe overnight. Then it’s back to trying to find her on your radar again. She says she digs you, but never with any meaning. She says she’ll call you, but sometimes never does. Is she a superhero? What’s with the vanishing act, both physically and emotionally? Unless you’re dating Wonder Woman, don’t invest more than she’s investing in you. At the very least, your investment to her should be 50:50.

She Feeds You Lines

Careful, lines uttered from a female player’s mouth aren’t like those of male players. They aren’t full of cool, smooth, playboy-type words designed to charm the boxers off you. They’re different; well-masked words and phrases designed to draw compliments or emotions from you, sort of verbal fishing lines. She might downplay her allure to get you to up your attraction. She may provide innocent conversation with not-so-innocent twinges of flirtation. No, you’re not imagining it, she’s dropping you ever-so-subtle hints, but hints that could easily be nothing but friendliness. At some point, if she’s not dropping you a clear sign, she’s playing verbal bob and weave, trying to get you to swing at a target that’s more than ready to duck… but let you connect only when she wants it.

She’s Young

Most, not all, female players stop the games in their upper-twenties. Late teens to early twenties is a ripe age for female-playerdom to flourish, mainly because guys in their late teens to early twenties are young, dumb, and full of motivation that doesn’t come from their brain. Hit any bar, any club and you’ll see– 21 year old chicks acting like seasoned vets when it comes to deflecting come-ons from those they don’t like, and accepting invitations from those they do. Girls in their prime know their options aren’t limited. The female players among them won’t limit their options.

Your Intuition Tells You

Yeah, even though you’re a guy, you’re not completely stupid. Guys have more instinct in them than women’s magazines would have you believe. Intuition will tell you this girl may not be being forthright with you. A little spidey-sense in the back of your head will tell you she’s not living up to the words that are coming from her mouth. And listen to the words coming from her mouth. Are they generically flirtatious? For example, could you be replaced with another male and the words she’s saying still be applicable? She’s being vague and non-committal. She’s 21 and she’s got a lot of guy friends. She’s feeding you lines. Or is she? Trust your gut. At best, invest in her what she’s investing in you. Listen to that tiny voice squeaking in your head; don’t let it get drowned out by the loud yelling coming from below.

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Treat Her to a “Spa Day”

Now obviously this needs to be done with finesse.  Your best bet would be to treat her to a “spa day”.  I have placed this in quotations for those of you without a limitless supply of funds because this is still doable the old fashioned way.

Instead of actually taking your girl to the spa, wake her up with a massage. Then follow that up with a trip to the salon.  At the salon have her waxed and her hair done.  (This is also affordable if you do some research and find a decent salon with reasonable prices – check out some of Jennifer’s articles for added direction).

Get Her Makeup Done

Once you are done with her hair, take her over to Nordstrom and visit the MAC Counter. This is not the MAC synonymous with Steve Jobs and Apple products.  MAC is a makeup line sold at various retail stores. The girls that work the counter are true artists and the makeup itself can cover-up anything.

There are other options as well if you do not wish to go the “makeover” route.

Compliment Her When She Looks Good

The best and quite honestly, only way to go (without confrontation), would be to put out when she looks great and withhold when she doesn’t. Compliment her when she looks good. Hopefully she will take the hint and start taking more time getting ready for you. Encouragement is key.

Outside of that, the only way to go is the ugly truth! Which we both know is not going grant you a happy ending.

Love you Boys!!  Keeping coming back.

Kisses,   Francesca