Posted by Charles Oh on January 5, 2011 · Leave a Comment
Players aren’t just guys anymore, and they aren’t just hip-hop vixens shaking their booties at the club. From Indie Chick to Gangster Bitch, female players come in all shapes, sizes, and incarnations. Look for these signs before falling for a player and getting played harder than a Wii after Christmas.
She Talks to a lot of guys
Obvious? Maybe, but also something easily forgiven if she explains it away as “they’re just friends” or “I get along better with guys”(both of which may actually be true). But don’t turn your head completely just yet. Same as how a female wouldn’t whole-heartedly trust a male surrounded by friends of the feminine persuasion, you shouldn’t take her platonic word for it right off the bat. She could be telling them the same thing about you. Do some snooping, some investigative work before investing yourself to her. I don’t mean digging through her trash or tapping her phones, hang around her for a bit – just as friends, and see whether she really is “just one of the guys”… or busy picking her flavors of the week.
She’s Vague and Non-Committal
Wanna do something this weekend? Of course you do. But how come she never says what or when? Some weekends pass and plans never pan out. Some weekends she’s free but her phone’s always blowing up. Plus, she never stays long– just a few hours or maybe overnight. Then it’s back to trying to find her on your radar again. She says she digs you, but never with any meaning. She says she’ll call you, but sometimes never does. Is she a superhero? What’s with the vanishing act, both physically and emotionally? Unless you’re dating Wonder Woman, don’t invest more than she’s investing in you. At the very least, your investment to her should be 50:50.
She Feeds You Lines
Careful, lines uttered from a female player’s mouth aren’t like those of male players. They aren’t full of cool, smooth, playboy-type words designed to charm the boxers off you. They’re different; well-masked words and phrases designed to draw compliments or emotions from you, sort of verbal fishing lines. She might downplay her allure to get you to up your attraction. She may provide innocent conversation with not-so-innocent twinges of flirtation. No, you’re not imagining it, she’s dropping you ever-so-subtle hints, but hints that could easily be nothing but friendliness. At some point, if she’s not dropping you a clear sign, she’s playing verbal bob and weave, trying to get you to swing at a target that’s more than ready to duck… but let you connect only when she wants it.
She’s Young
Most, not all, female players stop the games in their upper-twenties. Late teens to early twenties is a ripe age for female-playerdom to flourish, mainly because guys in their late teens to early twenties are young, dumb, and full of motivation that doesn’t come from their brain. Hit any bar, any club and you’ll see– 21 year old chicks acting like seasoned vets when it comes to deflecting come-ons from those they don’t like, and accepting invitations from those they do. Girls in their prime know their options aren’t limited. The female players among them won’t limit their options.
Your Intuition Tells You
Yeah, even though you’re a guy, you’re not completely stupid. Guys have more instinct in them than women’s magazines would have you believe. Intuition will tell you this girl may not be being forthright with you. A little spidey-sense in the back of your head will tell you she’s not living up to the words that are coming from her mouth. And listen to the words coming from her mouth. Are they generically flirtatious? For example, could you be replaced with another male and the words she’s saying still be applicable? She’s being vague and non-committal. She’s 21 and she’s got a lot of guy friends. She’s feeding you lines. Or is she? Trust your gut. At best, invest in her what she’s investing in you. Listen to that tiny voice squeaking in your head; don’t let it get drowned out by the loud yelling coming from below.
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Posted by MaleStandard on July 1, 2010 · Leave a Comment
Hello Boys! Good to have you back! This is gonna be a good one, so grab yourself a beverage and get comfortable. I am gonna open up a whole new world of one night stands for you.
Lets get started with your first do for a one night’er, how do you look? Comfortable sexy is always good. A pair of nice fitting jeans and t-shirt with a jacket always works. Please though do yourselves a favor as well as the ladies you’ll be scoping for the evening’s festivities, when you are buying your jeans, take a look at your butt before you buy. The biggest mistake you guys make is wearing a pair of jeans that hang off your ass.
Have you shaven? We like clean-shaven faces for the task at hand. Go for the rugged look once you have gotten past the one night stand part of your life and have a girlfriend. Are you wearing cologne? Make sure it’s not too strong; sometimes a really good smelling deodorant is all you need.
Do you have your alter ego for the evening picked out? You DO NOT give her your real name! Birthday, dog, etcetera all okay to be truthful with, but NOT YOUR NAME. Now, there is an exception to this rule, as there is to most. If this girl is your future wife you obviously do not want to start the relationship off with a lie but this is a very slippery slope. Can you really be sure with one look that this girl is not PSYCHO?
Okay now lets get to the real business at hand, the dos and don’ts. DO scope out your location! I have done some bar crawling myself and I can tell you for the younger set you should try: Club 333 in Newport Beach, Beach Front 301 in Huntington Beach, really anything along the coast will work.
For my older readers that aren’t looking for a young little thing to boost the ego for the evening, or really don’t care who you take home as long as you will be getting some; have I got the place for you. It is in Yorba Linda and it is called the FoxFire, or as me and mine like to call the Sure Fire. You will not leave this place without a woman on your arm if that is your goal it is quite literally a guaranteed lay.
Once you have scoped out your bar of choice, of most importance is this do! Always be sure to scope the room out. When you enter the bar, before you get a drink, find yourself a spot in the middle of the action and settle in. Take in the room and get to know your surroundings; this will go along way in creating your persona for the evening.
The more you know about your surroundings the more confident you will appear, even if this is your first time trying to pull it off. Pay close attention to the ladies in the room, who are they with? Maybe she is with a group of giggling college students or is it one of her favorite gay friends? This will be important in executing the pick up.
Now check the bartender, is he a player looking to score too or is he just looking for tips and paying attention to the gay friend?
Now if you feel confident in your environment it’s time to unleash the player.
Sidle up to the bar and order your drink. If you are really looking to have a nice night do not order a drink with an umbrella or some other kind of embellishment. You need to look the part and a long island iced tea is not going to get you anywhere.
Make sure you order your drink from the bartender that is checking out the gay friend, he will be your stand in wingman tonight. Give him a very nice tip, you’ll want him to like you right off the bat.
Now have you chosen your prey for the evening? Is she surrounded by a pack of friends? If she is, your best bet is to divide and conquer otherwise you will get yourself nowhere, unless of course they are extremely drunk. In that case you may want to approach the group as you could be looking at the ultimate evening; one that you and your friends will still be talking about at the old folks home.
Now if she is with the gay friend, you want him to like you before she does. This will be your ticket to paradise boys. If he likes you, you are so in. After you get him to fall in love with you, gush over the girl for a bit and then excuse yourself to the bar to get another round of drinks (Do Not be cheap boys that is a sure fire way to get you nowhere fast!!!) While you are gone two things will happen, the girl and the gay friend will talk about how cute you are and get all twitterpated. The second thing that will happen will be that you are going to do so some recon while you are at the bar. Ask the bartender if she is a regular, does he know anything about her etcetera.
Once you have her on the hook, a couple of more drinks and a couple of more turns around the dance floor and be on your way. It is ALWAYS better to go to her apartment. You do not want her to know where you live this is PARAMOUNT to pulling off the one nightstand.
Now if she approaches you, you’re in, keep the drinks coming and keep her dancing and talking you will get laid tonight. But, hey don’t be upset if she does not ask for your number. She had a plan going into the bar tonight your boy parts being key to that plan and the plan ends when the boy parts are done playing. The woman that comes on to you knows exactly what she wants and you are it so lay back and let her do all of the work you will have plenty to do later that evening.
My most important piece of advice to you is this: Women that are willing to play this little game are either of the same mind as you and will come on to you and be quite easy to get into bed. Or they are looking for Mr. Right. The first will usually kick you out of her bed long before the sun comes up and the latter, yeah not so much.
If she gets too cuddly or even remotely whispers the “L” word you need to get out while the getting is good, if you spend the night with this one another psycho bitch stalker will be born. This is why you do not give her your real name, it would also serve you not to return to that particular bar for a few weeks as she will most assuredly be looking for you.
I hope that this enlightens you to the wonders of pulling off the one night stand. If you have questions or think of something I did not cover please write in and let me know.
Love you Boys!! Keeping coming back. And remember when you look good we look good. Kisses. Francesca
